The battle between co-sleeping and sleep training. It has begun.

I am having a hard time with it as a mother. Of course, I am online reading the best methods and even had a close friend of mine give me hers that worked magic for her. Her 6m old literally sleeps solid all night. It works for her. Another friend of mine co sleeps with her little one and that works for her as well. We attempted it a few times and it was an EPIC FAIL! We all ended up crying.

I think the struggle for me is this: It took us a very long time to conceive and we finally have our little miracle. My husband and I literally had to move mountains. From the minute he was born, neither of us wanted to put him down because we just couldn’t believe we were holding him in our arms. We would bicker about who is holding him more, that’s how much we never wanted to let him go. We want to spend as much time with him as we can while he is still this little. I also work full time, so my time with him is limited.

Now I know, some may not agree with this, and that is OK. I look at my son sleeping and I never want him to feel abandoned or scared. I do not want him to wake up and not understand why mommy and daddy are not there. He know’s how to put himself to sleep, I watch him do it all the time. He lays himself down and curls up and goes to sleep. He will nap in his crib during the day as well. Just at night, he sleeps longer next to us right now.

It works for us as a family. My husband has a hard time sleeping at night at times, so it is not like we are missing out on quality time with one another. He has had this since we got together. There are times when I do not even sleep next to him regardless of the baby. The baby does not keep us up. I am not saying that we won’t attempt to sleep train, I am just saying that at this moment, we are on the same page with having him next to us.

Every family is different just like every baby is different. What works for us may not work for others. I hear it from some people.. the “oh, you co sleep?” and then a look. I even reached out to my mom groups and felt a lot better knowing I was not the only one. Most species sleeps with their babies. We seem to be the only ones that do not. At the end of the day, we as parents need the sleep which ever way we can get\ it. All of us in the house get sleep and see nothing wrong with that ❤

Posted by:The not so perfect, perfect mommy

New mom here! Just learning how to be the best mom I can be. Between working full time, keeping my other business alive (I am a candle maker), and now blogging, I am learning how to juggle it all. Thank goodness for my husband who works from home and is a great support system. I hope you enjoy this site :)

15 replies on “The Battle

  1. Being a mom is the toughest job ever! It seems like I have second guessed every decision I have made! We co slept but I was always worried it wasn’t right, especially when I received opinions from others. I wish I could go back and tell myself to calm down, that it’s only a very short period of time and that really it’s no one’s business anyway! 🙂

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    1. I used to stress about what others thought, but at the end of the day, we need to do what makes sense for us.

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  2. The sleep struggle is real. What has helped me and my husband is taking our baby for a car ride right before sleep time so they’ll fall asleep during the drive : )

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    1. He is a good sleeper thankfully. I could not imagine going for a car ride each time! You are a trooper!

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  3. Ooh that’s a tough situation of deciding what to do for every mom! We have some good sleepers now. Everyone’s journey of motherhood is so different. Don’t feel bad about doing something different than the person next to you! Your baby is so loved and you are doing a great job!

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  4. I totally feel you!!! I told my husband I hate getting up in the middle of the night to get our son when he cries since I have to be at work at 5AM everyday. In reality, I just LOVE hugging him and letting him know he is safe with Mommy! We just got him a toddler bed and it feels weird to not have him beside me anymore…but I know it’s time haha

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  5. Do what feels best for all of you mama! And remember you can change your mind whenever you want and try something new! I’m still co-sleeping with my little 8month old (sometimes in our actual bed and other times in a co-sleeper cot) depending on how I feel on the night and intend to keep doing it till I think she can be on her own and sleep through the night coz it keeps me sane 😊

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