The battle between co-sleeping and sleep training. It has begun.
I am having a hard time with it as a mother. Of course, I am online reading the best methods and even had a close friend of mine give me hers that worked magic for her. Her 6m old literally sleeps solid all night. It works for her. Another friend of mine co sleeps with her little one and that works for her as well. We attempted it a few times and it was an EPIC FAIL! We all ended up crying.
I think the struggle for me is this: It took us a very long time to conceive and we finally have our little miracle. My husband and I literally had to move mountains. From the minute he was born, neither of us wanted to put him down because we just couldn’t believe we were holding him in our arms. We would bicker about who is holding him more, that’s how much we never wanted to let him go. We want to spend as much time with him as we can while he is still this little. I also work full time, so my time with him is limited.
Now I know, some may not agree with this, and that is OK. I look at my son sleeping and I never want him to feel abandoned or scared. I do not want him to wake up and not understand why mommy and daddy are not there. He know’s how to put himself to sleep, I watch him do it all the time. He lays himself down and curls up and goes to sleep. He will nap in his crib during the day as well. Just at night, he sleeps longer next to us right now.
It works for us as a family. My husband has a hard time sleeping at night at times, so it is not like we are missing out on quality time with one another. He has had this since we got together. There are times when I do not even sleep next to him regardless of the baby. The baby does not keep us up. I am not saying that we won’t attempt to sleep train, I am just saying that at this moment, we are on the same page with having him next to us.
Every family is different just like every baby is different. What works for us may not work for others. I hear it from some people.. the “oh, you co sleep?” and then a look. I even reached out to my mom groups and felt a lot better knowing I was not the only one. Most species sleeps with their babies. We seem to be the only ones that do not. At the end of the day, we as parents need the sleep which ever way we can get\ it. All of us in the house get sleep and see nothing wrong with that ❤